Treat Them Really Nicely

Recently some very weird thoughts have been occupying my mind - I thought I could share them with you.

When my Man and I met I was a mess. I was a wreck. My previous relationship had worn me out completely and it was all being made even worse by the process of trying to hide it from everyone around and acting as if everything is fine. That's a really tiring (and, I must say, pointless) thing to do.

When my Man and I met he was a mess. He was a wreck. For other reasons, yes, but there we were - two people knowing there is something between us we can't ignore, yet so F***ED up that we can't give it another try with open hearts and open minds, fearlessly.

It was countless numbers of sleepless nights later that we realized that we had let go of the pain and fears growing from our past. It took so long to learn to trust again. So much time had been wasted.

What I'm thinking now is that none of us wishes for our ex-es to go around telling their current partners what ass***s we were and how badly we treated them back then. No matter how good people are, I believe it against human nature and instincts to love or even like our currents partner's ex-es or our ex-es currents partners... Wouldn't it just be SO much better to treat our current partner's nicely? Be good to them? Honest? Open-hearted? That way, if you are meant to be together forever, it will be 100% for your benefit. You will end up with a very loving, devoted person.

And if you are not meant to be together forever?... Oh well, in that case you will have nothing to be ashamed of when you bump into them holding hands in the mall one day. You will look his new partner in the eye with pride for yourself that you were a good girl and did half of the job for her.

My mother taught me this lesson. Be the woman that will be missed (or man - I think it works both ways). The day might come when you will be really grateful for having been a good partner. Start investing in that option right now. Be good. Be honest. Treat them nicely.

P.S.: ... hope you like the outfit post:) New Year spirit all around!

The shirt is sold at Shu Means Love - here (in Russian) and here (in English)

Boots - Jeffrey Campbell

"Lana" Gold Wrist Bracelet - Shu Means Love, back in stock around 10th of January

xoxo,

Alina

GOD THIS IS BEAUTIFUL

... nothing else to say.

Friends Will Be Friends

Sunday the 2nd was the birthday of one of my very close friends. And not being able to congratulate him in person got me thinking... 

Thinking about how little I see of my friends recently as compared to how much time we used to spend together. And how in a very weird, surprising way, it has made us mean even more to each other.

We've grown up a little and now we all have to work extremely hard to earn our own living. The easy days of our childhoods are over - now is a tough time with no time for rest - but only to be replaced again in the future with easier times earned by our current hard work (or so I tell myself).

This goes out to all my friends who I love so much. You're the best and I can't imagine my life without you. Don't worry - we still have all our lives to spend together. I know we will.

If you have someone you cherish as a friend but haven't called or messaged in quite a while because you got caught up in the rush - you should do it. Right now. Just tell them how much you miss them. I could never count the times that such unexpected messages from my friends put a smile upon my face those days that I was feeling especially down.

All this made me realize one more thing - I never shared the pictures of my birthday party anywhere, so here they are. God did we have a blast. 

I love you, guys. You're the best.

Vero and Angelochek - I really wished you were there... 

Dima - words could never describe what it meant to me to see your happy face that eve beside me. Thanks for travelling from so far away.

Slava Gee - thanks for making this happen!!! THANK!!! YOU!!!!!!!!

Everyone who was there going wild with me - thank you so much. You know the way I feel. I love you. Every year on the 16th of September you make me realize how heavenly blessed I am with my friends. God am I blessed... 

AND KOLECHKA - HAPPY BIRTHDAY ONCE AGAIN. I hope you're the happiest out there. Today. Every day. Always.

P.S.: Zino, you got to hear it in person - but yeah, happy birthday to you once again, too:)

... and then the rain came and things got a little out of control:)

... attention to the guy in the background:)

...here comes my bro:)

... meanwhile...

Very, very happy me. 24 years old now.

xoxo,

Alina